Before I get into this I just want to give a
Rant Alert!!!
Okay now that that’s done….let’s get into
this. The first time I heard this term several years ago I was really confused.
Like really really REALLY confused. I wondered why anyone would hang out with
someone who’s outwardly out to get them (in a bad way)? Life is hard as it is,
why add on extra baggage?
Then it hit me, drama! Yes DRAMA. People
actually crave drama in their lives (especially ‘’friendship’’ drama). I was
super guilty of this in middle school and high school. I willingly befriended
people who were downright mean, catty and spiteful. I knew about this and every
other day we’d fight then “make-up” then fight then “make-up”…you get the drift.
It was exhausting and very damaging to my self-esteem. I drew the line in my
second year of high school when a fight with a frenemy divided the class into
two, I kid you not the whole class split into two, my supporters and my frenenemy’s
supporters. It was a really huge deal and lasted an entire school term. Funny thing
is that I don’t even remember what the fight was about. I just remember a
feeling of melancholy and loneliness.
My trip down memory lane was what inspired me
to post this blog in the first place. This frenemy thing can carry on way after
high school and it’s a pity. A real pity. Life is really short if you think
about it and I think creating meaningful connections and friendships with
people should be something we invest a lot of time and energy in. Its time you
reviewed yourself and those you choose to spend time with. I tend to do this
every year. It’s really helpful because it helps me figure out who I should
invest time and energy into and who I should part ways with.
There’s nothing wrong with seasonal
friendships, that’s just the way the world is… some people are only supposed to
be in your life for a particular season. Sometimes you may part ways in a
really bad way (fights, betrayal, taking each other for granted etc…) and the
friendship just doesn't recover from a particular event. Whichever the case
make wise decisions about the people you chose to have in your life. I urge you
all not to fall into a frenemy situation….
Until next time ^.^
